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What to say when someone is going through something hard

When someone you care about is hurting, the fear of saying the wrong thing can freeze you into saying nothing, and silence is the one thing that hurts most. These guides give you honest, specific words for the hardest moments, the things to avoid, and the small gestures that carry more than any card.

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What to say when someone is diagnosed with cancer

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What to say when someone loses a pet

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How to honor someone on the anniversary of a loss

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What to say when someone loses their job

Supportive, non-awkward things to say when a friend loses their job or is laid off, plus what to avoid, and concrete ways to help beyond 'let me know if you hear of anything.'

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What to say to someone going through a divorce

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What to say to someone after a miscarriage

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What to write in a sympathy card

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What to say to someone who is sick

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What to say to a grieving coworker

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What to say to someone going through a breakup

What to say to a friend going through a breakup: comforting words that validate the loss, what to text, what to avoid, and steady ways to help without ex-bashing or pep talks.

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How to support a friend from far away

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What to say to a caregiver

What to say to a caregiver looking after a sick or aging loved one, how to see them as a person and not a saint, plus real relief to offer and what to avoid.

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What to say when someone loses a spouse

Gentle, specific things to say when someone loses their husband or wife, what to avoid, gestures that help, and how to keep showing up in the lonely months after.

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What to say when someone loses a grandparent

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What to say to someone before surgery

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What to say to someone who is depressed

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What to say when someone doesn't get the job

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What to say to someone struggling with infertility

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What to say when someone's pet is dying

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